The visible symptoms of meltdown are as varied as the Asperger children themselves, but every parent is able to describe their child’s meltdown behaviour in intricate detail.

Meltdowns can be short lived, or last as long as two hours. They can be as infrequent as once a month (often coinciding with the lunar cycle/full moon) or occur as frequently as 4-6 times a day.

Whatever the frequency and duration, an Asperger child having a meltdown is difficult for parents/carers/teachers to deal with.

Meltdown in Asperger children is triggered by a response to their environment. These responses can be caused by avoidance desire, anxiety or sensory overload. Triggers need to be recognised and identified.

So how do we deal with a meltdown? What should you do when meltdown occurs?

An adults’ (parents/carers/teachers) behaviour can influence a meltdown’s duration, so always check your response first.

1. Calm down

2. Quiet down

3. Slow down

4. Prioritise safety

5. Re-establish self-control in the child, then deal with the issue

1. Take 3 slow, deep breaths, and rather than dreading the meltdown that’s about to take place, assure yourself that you’ve survived meltdowns 1000 times before and will do so this time too.

2. Keep your speaking voice quiet and your tone neutrally pleasant. Don’t speak unnecessarily. Less is best. Don’t be “baited” into an argument. (Often Asperger children seem to “want” to fight. They know how to “push your buttons”, so don’t be side-tracked from the meltdown issue).

3. Slow down. Meltdown often occurs at the most inconvenient time e.g. rushing out the door to school. The extra pressure the fear of being late creates, adds to the stress of the situation. (Asperger children respond to referred mood and will pick up on your stress. This stress is then added to their own.) So forget the clock and focus on the situation. Make sure the significant people in your life know your priorities here. Let your boss know that your Asperger child has meltdowns that have the capacity to bring life to a standstill, and you may be late. Let your child’s teacher know that if your child is late due to a meltdown that it’s unavoidable, and your child shouldn’t be reprimanded for it.

4. Prioritise safety when your Asperger child is having a meltdown. Understand that they can be extremely impulsive and irrational at this time. Don’t presume that the safety rules they know will be utilized while they’re melting down. Just because your Asperger child knows not to go near the street when they are calm doesn’t mean they won’t run straight into 4 lanes of traffic when they are having a meltdown. If your Asperger child starts melting down when you’re driving in the car, pull over and stop. If your child tends to “flee” when melting down, don’t chase them. This just adds more danger to the situation. Tail them at a safe distance (maintain visual contact) if necessary.

5. When your Asperger child is calm and has regained self-control, he will often be exhausted. Keep that in mind as you work through the meltdown issue. Reinforce to your child the appropriate way to express their needs/requests.

Remember that all behaviour is a form of communication, so try to work out the ‘message’ your Asperger child is trying to convey with their meltdown, rather than responding and reacting to the behaviour displayed.

About The Author

Nelle Frances is the mother of a 15 year old with Asperger’s Syndrome, a Special Needs Educator and Author of the Ben and His Helmet series of books for Asperger children. She is also an active member of 5 Asperger’s Syndrome Support and Advocacy Groups. For more information and Support Strategies visit http://www.nellefrances.com.

So how does your child show their frustration? Do they withdraw to someplace they feel safe? Do they yell and cry? Do they throw things and hurt people? And what do you do when you child gets frustrated? Do you take it personally? Or do you jump in sooth them when they are on the brink of crying? Do you give them time alone to try to deal with it? Is it best to talk about the issue or let it go? Parents don’t want to spend a lot of time discussing the case of the missing toothbrush and how the child should have handled it when there may be more pressing issues in the household to discuss.

Children with Asperger’s Syndrome have a low toleration for frustration. It is understandable that the frustration comes from a lack of understanding of their own feelings. They are unable to identify and express what they are feeling so they lump all the ‘bad’ feelings together. The parents see the overflow of ‘bad’ feelings come out at once. It’s important that we don’t take them personally even when they seem as though they are directed at us. Aspergers’ kids want to tell what is on their mind and most of the time they don’t know how to say it properly or they misinterpreted their thoughts altogether.

So what can parents do to help these kids with these frustrations? If the child is exhibiting threatening behavior and seems unable to control it, then getting them to work with a professional is the best approach if they don’t already have one. Many times, a counselor can provide techniques or methods for the child to deal with their feelings. Also, a counselor can provide a parent with valuable insight and tools for helping the child deal with their feelings. There are also medications that a doctor can prescribe to help calm these outbursts and let the child think it through.

A child who is obviously frustrated but not particularly threatening or violent still needs help and parents can provide that through on the fly discussions. An older child can be reasoned with on what triggered the outburst and how they can deal with it the next time. It’s important that these discussion be held calmly and rationally. If the child feels accused or threatened themselves, then they will not be receptive to what the parents have to say and it may help to have a counselor facilitate these type of conversations.

The bottom line is if your child appears to have a low tolerance for frustration and it is happening more frequently, then they need help understanding what it happening to them. This kind of help can come from a number of places and the most important player is the parent. Don’t take it personally, rather understand they are literally brimming over with ‘bad’ emotions and don’t realize what they are doing.

As with most autistic children, those with Aspergers will also have other very
distinctive social development issues. An inability to maintain eye contact, lack of comprehension when it comes to using body language and other forms of social expression, making repetitive sounds or motions and intense focus on one subject are all part and parcel of life with Aspergers. For this reason, Aspergers and ADHD medication should not be directly linked, as most standard ADHD medication will be ineffective in Aspergers children.

While some use of antidepressants has been successful in treating Aspergers, generally the use of behavioral and social therapy is most effective. Despite the seemingly close connection between Aspergers & ADHD, they are, in fact, two completely different conditions and should be treated as such. Unlike more serious forms of autism, the Aspergers child usually has a high IQ and can be mainstreamed into a normal school setting if special care is taken to provide some individualized instruction.

While the use of stimulant based medications has been proven to effectively lessen the symptoms of ADHD, this doesn’t mean that an Aspergers child who also exhibits ADHD symptoms should be treated this way. In fact, the connection between Aspergers and ADHD medication is tentative at best. ADHD meds are not a “cure” for Aspergers nor should they be treated as such.

One area where Aspergers & ADHD are similar is their reaction to alternative treatments. Everything from music therapy to yoga has been used to help both Aspergers and ADHD children to focus and relax and control disruptive behavior. Also, homeopathic remedies have proven quite successful in treating both conditions. Made from a unique blend of herbs like Hyoscyamus, Arsen iod and Tuberculinum and other plant based substances, these medications specifically target the chemical and neurological imbalances which cause ADHD symptoms and have produced positive long term results.

While there is a tendency to link Aspergers and ADHD medication, it is the use of natural remedies which has proven to be most advantageous for both conditions. By using safe, gentle, natural ingredients, homeopathic remedies can ease ADHD symptoms without exposing the child to harsh side effects.

Though the word “Autism” can inspire frustration, confusion and even fear, there are successful methods of treatment, especially for higher functioning forms such as Aspergers Syndrome. A diagnosis of Aspergers does not have to be the end of the world. The important thing is understanding the differences between Aspergers and ADHD and finding the right course of treatment for your child, one that can help you both to breathe easier and enjoy life!

Another Recent Post on Asperger’s Syndrome:

My Yellow Apple: Journeys in Parenting Asperger’s Syndrome

Natalie Dalton: I am happily married to a great guy, Francis, and together we raise our beautiful children, Aiden, 5, and Margaret, 2. Together we are navigating a family life where Asperger’s Syndrome/Autism has a starring role!

After raising children for sixteen years, I’ve learned to trust my instincts. In fact, one psychologist told me that I have a PhD in my children. In this particular case he was referring to my autistic son, who was five years old at the time.

He said, “You’ve been studying him for five years now. That’s how long it takes some psychologists to earn their PhD. You are an expert on your son. Don’t let anyone tell you different.”

Medical Personnel:

I wish I had this much confidence in myself when my middle son was an infant. I kept taking him in for his well baby check ups and complained about developmental delays. He was months behind his brother for smiling, babbling, crawling, walking, talking, etc.

I was intimidated into not looking for answers for three years by one simple comment from his doctor. “Oh, you had the perfect child first.” When my son was three and a half years old, I ventured to ask my own physician in the same family practice. She administered some developmental tests on the spot. Then she immediately handed me a referral to a children’s developmental clinic.

It turned out I was correct in my concern. My son received the diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome from this clinic. Fortunately, my son was not adversely affected by the delay in a diagnosis and early interventions.

Educational Professionals:

When I took my son into preschool, the vice principal told me that my son was too young to receive a diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome. When I requested my son be tested for speech and language disabilities, I was told that he had none. The Individualized Educational Plan (IEP) my son had at the beginning of preschool was withdrawn.

In kindergarten my son came home thirty-eight days in a row having had a wetting accident during class. I thought I had complained to everyone that something was wrong. Maybe I did and maybe I didn’t. All I know is after a meeting between my attorney and specialists and the school board’s vice superintendent, attorney and the school’s principal, my son was immediately moved to a different classroom and teacher. The wetting accidents stopped.

There was a discrepancy between the quality of work he was bringing home and what he was doing at home. I felt my son had a learning disability. The school did not. I went to the local learning disability advocates who confirmed that the school did not have to do anything more for my child. I hired an attorney and educational consultant who affirmed my position.

In the end, I did not continue with the services of the hired professionals. Once I had begun to trust in my own instincts, I began advocating on my own for my son. Eventually we did receive a new IEP for my son. He went from a child in the top two thirds of his class to earning straight ‘A’ report cards and being placed in the Honors program.

Corrin Howe

http://www.justbecausemypickletalks.blogspot.com

I’m a mother of a nine-year-old son diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. Although I don’t think what I do for him is beyond normal, most of the professionals we deal with suggest that I start sharing some of my ideas for helping my son.

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Is Asperger’s Syndrome Hereditary?

We need to do a lot more work, but it does look like there’s some very strong genetics to Asperger’s Syndrome and there is probably some connection to autism. Dr. Volkmar, M.D.: Fred Volkmar, M.D.

If you have recently received a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome for one of your children, you may be asking yourself how this could be? You are certainly experiencing a lot of emotions right now, but your brain has also kicked into high gear as you search for an explanation. You want to know why? Where did it come from? Isn’t Asperger Syndrome an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)? Is it genetic? Is it due to a poor diet or childhood immunizations? Could our toxic environment be a contributor?

While there are many contributing factors (such as environmental toxins and dietary sensitivities) and scientists are still uncovering the mystery of ASDs, one often overlooked factor is that one or both parents probably have an Autism Spectrum Disorder or at least some of the traits. Since we did not start diagnosing Asperger Syndrome until 1994 here in the United States, there are many parents with the disorder who were not diagnosed as children. Now when one of their own children is diagnosed, and as the parents start learning more about the traits of autism, the dawning light of recognition begins. Many of the Asperger traits that they see in their children are very similar to the traits of the parents . . .and grandparents and other family members. Undeniably there is a strong genetic component to Asperger Syndrome.

Here is one example. Beverly waltzed into my office, her long full skirt swishing as she walked. She was wearing flip flops and a much-too-tight blouse that was not a match for her skirt. No matter, you don’t have to be a fashion plate to see a psychologist. I noticed that Beverly had smudged “coke bottle” glasses, betraying her near sightedness. Her blonde hair was her most attractive feature, especially because it was arranged in one of those contemporary mussed-up hairdos . . . or was it mussed because she didn’t comb it this morning? Nevertheless she presented a warm and friendly smile as she greeted me.

Beverly was already 20 minutes late for her appointment with me and yet she didn’t seem to realize it. She chatted amiably about the weather, while she arranged herself in the armchair, and placed her extra large carryall at her feet. She rummaged through her bag looking for something . . .her cell phone I think since it began making noise just as she sat down. She apologized profusely for the ringing cell phone, pulled it out of her bag, checked who the call was from, then smiled at me . . . and took the call. She chatted aimlessly with the caller and only after several minutes did it occur to her to tell the caller she was in an appointment with me. Again she apologized and we started our session, with about 15 minutes left of the therapy hour.

Beverly has two children on the Spectrum and her husband has been formally diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. Yet Beverly has no idea she has Asperger Syndrome too. She jokes that she is like Einstein and can’t stand to wear socks, even in the winter. She is anxious most of the time. She misjudges time. She has trouble reading facial expressions. But she is so bright and well educated that until her children were diagnosed she never saw the symptoms in herself.

Then there is George. George is a tense and driven entrepreneur. He is highly successful in business. In fact he was a multi-millionaire before he turned 40. George has two children, all of whom have special needs. One has ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and dyslexia. The other has Asperger Syndrome. Yet George denies that he has any traits of the Autism Spectrum. He works 24/7, leaving all of the childcare to his wife. Fortunately she can hire private tutors and household help or she would not be able to keep up with her children’s special needs.

Liza, George’s wife tells me, “I love my husband but he wears me out. He works non-stop and expects me to take care of everything else. He is willing to pay for private schools for the children, but never once has he come to a school conference. He won’t learn about the children’s special needs and as the kids get older I worry about his temper. As it is he seems kind of clueless about the kids. For example, when the kids get tired of waiting for Dad to get home for dinner, they can have meltdowns. George insists that we wait dinner on him but sometimes he doesn’t walk in until 10:00 pm or later. Then he gets angry that we didn’t wait for him. I fed the kids and put them to bed long ago to avoid their tantrums. Now I have to listen to his! Sometimes it is a nightmare.”

Both Beverly and George have symptoms of Asperger Syndrome, which is a type of autism that is considered very high functioning. They are bright, well-educated people, so they are very successful at careers or other vocations. But when it comes to interpersonal relating, such as showing up on time . . . or recognizing the needs of children to eat at a regular hour. . . or the needs of a spouse for emotional support . . . well they have not acquired these skills. These types of skills are the very ones their children struggle with also. A hallmark of Asperger Syndrome is a lack of social radar that leads both children and adults with AS to miss the social reciprocity that is so essential to making relationships work.

A diagnosis of  Asperger Syndrome for your child is the beginning of a major transformation for a family. Now at least you have a direction to start exploring for some answers. Hopefully you will find a team of professionals to help you reconstruct a medical, psychological and educational plan for your child. But all of your hard work will go up in smoke if you do not come to terms with the fact that most likely one or both parents are on the Autism Spectrum too. How can you parent effectively if you have not resolved the confusion and misdirection from your own undiagnosed childhood? It’s true for all parents, not just AS parents that to be an effective and loving parent, you have to clean up your own bad habits and insecurities. If our goal as parents is to raise children with strong self-esteem, which leads to a “Can do” attitude in adult life, then we need to take stock of our own behaviors first.

Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist is the author of the book “Life with a partner or spouse with Asperger Syndrome: GOING OVER THE EDGE?” (2009), available on Amazon.com. Dr. Marshack practices in Portland/Vancouver and can be reached at 503-222-6678, info@kmarshack.com or http://www.kmarshack.com.

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Asperger Syndrome. (It doesn’t officially have an apostrophe in there, but so many people use it that I think it’s now accepted colloquially as Asperger’s Syndrome.) He’s on the autism spectrum, albeit the high functioning end.

If you have someone in your house with Asperger’s Syndrome or autism, then you know vacations can be very stressful. People with this diagnosis don’t like change and do like routine and familiar surroundings. For years it was a miserable experience to go on a family vacation. So miserable we wondered why we were putting ourselves through the torture. However, we have two “typical” children who needed to have the experiences their brother avoids. Through trial, error and education, we came up with solutions which make vacations an enjoyable experience for everyone. These solutions may not work for everyone, but give some a try. Keep what works and leave the rest on the coffee table to collect dust.

For our family we stumbled upon a timeshare program. No matter where we go in a timeshare network, our son can be assured of familiar things in each setting. The units are basically laid out, furnished and stocked the same. He knows he’ll have a double bed to himself in a room he’ll share with his younger sister. He knows he’ll have a television in his room and a bathroom connected to his room. He knows his clean clothes will be in the drawer three from the top and his dirty clothes will go in the bottom drawer. He knows his PS2 or Wii will be compatible with the entertainment center in the living room. If timeshares are not an option for you, consider using the same hotel chain, campgrounds, friend’s and or family locations from vacation to vacation.

Next, we’ve step up “routines” or traditions for our vacations. For example, he knows during Spring Break we will go to the timeshare complex near the same amusement park. We will ride the same rides, eat the same foods and he will carry the same park map. He knows during the stay his dad will take him and his sister to the indoor pool at least once a day and one night we’ll go to the same all-you-can-eat buffet. We’ve given up the Christmas with the extended family in favor of a week at another favorite timeshare location. Family and friends are free to come visit us for the day, the child who is easily overstimulated knows at the end of the day, he’ll have his much needed time, space and routine.

While it is a major pain and causes us to pack extra items, we also make sure we make the “vacation house” feel like home. He has sensory issues, so we bring the mini-trampoline with us wherever we go. Otherwise he’s jumping on the furniture or running back and forth in the unit. We carry the bedtime bible, the pillow, the blanket and the stuffed animal. We also carry the “survival backpack” which I wrote about in a separate article.

Since the timeshare units are fully furnished apartments, I plan to make most of the meals. I either bring all the groceries with me for a week of meals, or I shop immediately after checking in. I make sure all the meals are family favorites and include the foods he’ll eat. I also keep his special cup on hand.

Finally, when he was younger, it was helpful to show him pictures of the place we were going, show him the map of how we were getting there, and a schedule of what he could expect to do each day. I find he doesn’t need this as much now that he’s older. It might be because we are usually going to the same places we’ve been before. More recently I’ve found I need to create and post a schedule of the weekly and daily activities on the timeshare unit refrigerator. I also bring and post the current behavior plan, rewards and consequences. In this case, I print these ahead of time and keep refrigerator magnets in my “timeshare” box.

Of course, every child and family is different, so all of these ideas may not work for you. However, if some do, then you’ll find vacation a little less stressful and more relaxing. I’m curious to know if this helped you. Please feel free to comment and let me know. Or to give you some of your own tips.

Corrin Howe

http://www.justbecausemypickletalks.blogspot.com

I’m a mother of a nine-year-old son diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. Although I don’t think what I do for him is beyond normal, most of the professionals we deal with suggest that I start sharing some of my ideas for helping my son.

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Teaching Children with Asperger’s Syndrome

This workshop, presented by Sharon Jurman, will focus on the unique needs, challenges and rewards of teaching children with Aspergers Disorder in an integrated or self contained classroom.

PHYSICAL STRUCTURE OF THE BRAIN

The frontal lobe of the brain affects several processes such as speech, expressive language, emotion, reaction, habits, and judgment. The imaging that has been done suggests that in folks with Aspergers this area of the brain grows and develops much more slowly while other areas grow more rapidly. What you often get is a gifted student that does not know how to deal with people.

New studies that have been released over the past year have begun to explain what is not working correctly. We learn by the process of copying each other. We say things other people we know say. We eat things other people we know eat. We do things that other people we know do. We learn from them.

"MIRROR" NEURONS MAY BE A CAUSE

In the brain we have neurons. Little chemical signals that control what the brain does. These ones have been labeled "mirror" neurons because they make your brain think you are actually doing what you are watching someone else do. People with Autistic spectrums do not produce these neurons when they see someone else doing things. Therefore, if they see someone making a movement with their face and they don’t know what it means, they are not going to repeat the seemingly useless gesture at the right time, if at all. After a while they might stop paying attention to the movement at all.

SUBTLE VOICE CHANGES ARE MISSED

Sarcasm is cue based. The words are the same but the voice changes. This would be considered a subtle cue and these are often missed. Analogies are not understood unless the connection is understood.

But there is hope. Specific training can often be highly effective in helping Aspergers children learn the skills needed.

HOW TO TEACH ASPERGERS KIDS TO UNDERSTAND THESE SUBTLE CLUES

Basically, Aspergers is treated by training the child how the world outside of their mind works. Because they have trouble recognizing that other people are having different thoughts than them, they have to be taught this. Once they have learned that, they can be trained to respond to other people in a way that will help them get what they need. Then they will be taught about relationships and the give and take of conversations and friendships.

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If you do any research on Aspergers Syndrome you will find there is no one medication that will help Aspergers. Many children still suffer from hyperactivity (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, anxiety and more due to Aspergers Syndrome. There are many medications out that specifically target those symptoms. There is a variety of websites that discuss medications for specific symptoms that can be taken and monitored by your doctor.

Our daughter was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. She was already on Concerta for an ADHD diagnosis she had around first grade. Although it might not actually be ADHD but a symptom of Aspergers Syndrome our doctor has left her on this medication. Our biggest concern is since Concerta (and many other ADHD medications) is a controlled substance and we didn’t want her taking any more then she could possibly need to function. Our doctor tried lowering her dosage, but we immediately saw a drop in her ability to focus, function, and an increase in conflicts with her family members. We were put back on her original dosage of Concerta. Being a Pharmacologist as well as a Neurologist our doctor has seen many different drugs and combinations work for Aspergers children, but it is a matter of trying things to see what works for this specific child.

Our doctor asked if we would be willing to try Prozac. He explained he had seen results in Aspergers children on Prozac because it targets anxiety, obsessions, and depression (even if they don’t exhibit it doesn’t mean it isn’t there). His hope was if the Prozac worked to help with specific areas we could the reduce her Concerta. We started on a small dosage of Prozac and slowly built up. Of course we got all the information about side effects and what to watch for.

We visited each week to discuss any changes. We go almost all the way to the maximum dosage for her, and yet there was absolutely no change or effect on her. We gradually reduced the dosage and took her off of Prozac. The interesting note from the doctor was the majority of people on Prozac react either positive or negative to the drug. Only about 1% of people have absolutely no reaction what so ever. Well, that is my daughter for you.

With Prozac out of the way, our doctor still was concerned about the high dosage of Concerta that was required to help her stay where she could function and focus. Her weight and size has remained very small for her age. She also has trouble sleeping. Both are symptoms of a controlled substance like Concerta. He decided to try reducing her Concerta again but supplementing it with Stratera (non-stimulant drug). This has actually worked and allowed her to maintain the level of focus and function she needs. By reducing the Concerta she may regain her appetite and sleep better at night.

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Temper Tantrums and Asperger

A temper tantrum is very straightforward. A child does not get his or her own way and, as grandma would say, “pitches a fit.” This is not to discount the temper tantrum. They are not fun for anyone.

Tips on stopping aspergers temper tantrums

1. Speak with your kid

Asperger’s sufferers don’t really have the knowledge to solve when their behaviors are improper. Talk to your kid about his meltdowns when he is calm and relaxed. This will probably not be until the child is seven or eight years old. Then, tell him that sometimes he does things that are not appropriate. Have him talk to you about a sign you can give him to let him known when this happens.

When my son begins to experience a meltdown, he and I have agreed that I can let him know by laying my hand on his shoulder and saying, “Please stay calm.” This works fantastically for me but may not work for others. So, you have to learn by trail and error.

2. Be Patient

All you can do is be patient with your child while he is having a meltdown, though they are emotionally exhausting for you as well as he. Never punish him for experiencing a meltdown.

3. Asperger’s children don’t like surprises and some don’t like to be touched.

Never rush to your child and give him a hug. If you want to hug him, tell him exactly what you are going to do. A surprise hug can send him into an even worse meltdown than he is already experiencing.

In conclusion about aspergers temper tantrums:

If you feel like you are being manipulated by a tantrum, you are right. You are. A tantrum is nothing more than a power play by a person not mature enough to play a subtle game of internal politics.

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Written by a Christian mom of two Aspergers Children, Phyllis Wheeler really knows – first hand – what works, and what doesn’t work for our kids. She’s been where we are now – from the discovery that our child is different to raising and teaching them through adult hood.

This author isn’t a Dr telling us what “we should be doing”. Nor is she just beginning out on the journey with an Aspergers Child. She’s been there and done that! She’s got Experience and experience is the BEST teacher. She shares real examples with real solutions – what a breath of fresh air!

This book gives you the nuts and bolts of HOW to work with your child. From using a Rubber Chicken (communication skills) to implementing a truly workable point system that will create structure and actually mean something to your Aspie – this book is one of those irreplaceable books.

I first bought this book years and years ago, read through it and then let my hubby read it. This book made the difference. It gave my husband insight to what it meant to be an Aspie, how Aspie’s react to their environment and gave us both hope that we could do this: we could parent a very special child called an Aspergers Child.

Just last month, someone asked me something about an Aspie child, and I dug out my book, once again, and found the answer. It’s not just a good read, it’s a great resource book. You’ll want this book on the “easy access” book shelf, cause you’ll be going back to it often.

You can visit my home on the web for more info on getting your hands on this book – it’s a must have for any Aspie Parent! http://home.maggiemccormick.com/index.html (3rd block down on the right hand side)

Maggie McCormick is married to her best friend Dave. Their son has Aspergers/ADHD/ODD and their daughter is mildly ADHD. They have been homeschooling for over six years and have a Support Site for Special Needs Families.

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Aspergers Syndrome (AS) is in the category of developmental disorders of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) that is under the umbrella of Pervasive Developmental Disorders or PDD. It is different from Autism because there is not a specific delay of language or cognitive development, but does share the clumsiness (tripping, bumping, dropping things, etc.) aspects, although these are not particular to the diagnosis.

Why call it Aspergers? It is named after Hans Asperger who, in 1944, described children in his pediatric practice who lacked nonverbal communication skills, were non-empathetic with their peers, and were physically clumsy. It is sometimes referred to as a high functioning autism.

Treatment Aspergers Syndrome is treated mainly through behavioral therapy that is designed to work on communication skills, social skills, coping mechanisms, and helping with obsessions and repetitive routines. Most people with AS learn to cope with their differences, but may need support and encouragement to maintain their independence.

A typical treatment program for a child with Aspergers Syndrome includes:

    * The training of social skills for more effective interpersonal interactions
    * Cognitive behavioral therapy to improve stress management relating to anxiety or explosive emotions, and to cut back on obsessive interests and repetitive routines
    * Medication, for coexisting conditions such as depression and anxiety
    * Occupational or physical therapy to assist with poor sensory integration and motor coordination
    * Social communication intervention, which is specialized speech therapy to help with the pragmatics of the give and take of normal conversation
    * The training and support of parents, particularly in behavioral techniques to use in the home

Kids with Aspergers don’t usually share the withdrawn isolation of children with autism and will openly, but often very awkwardly, approach and engage others in social situation. However, their inability see things through others eyes, and the tendency to go overboard going on and on about their latest obsession, makes them appear selfish, uncaring and insensitive toward other people. This is not necessarily true, they just don’t realize how they are perceived or that other people have different interests and feelings than they do.

Many of the children with Aspergers will actually memorize reactions in specific social situations, and recite definitions or examples of emotion, but have a very hard time acting on any of that knowledge in a real situation. Or they will use a rigid application of the specific social rules they have memorized. This can come across as forced eye contact, or the plastered on smile, or laughing at the wrong time. They want friends and do seek out social contact, but over the years their failures in these situations can be devastating.

Kids with Aspergers will sometimes develop very focused and intense interest in something or some activity, that will completely dominate their time and their life, almost to the exclusion of everything else, and they will try to draw whoever they can into the same interest. This is usually seen as normal childhood interest and behavior at first, until the obsessive qualities become apparent and problems relating to anything or anyone else starts happening.

Diagnosis The diagnosis uses the identification of the stereotypical and repetitive behaviors as a central part of how it is diagnosed, but confirmation is done by ruling out anything else that can cause the same symptoms. The motor behaviors that are observed are things like the hand flapping or twisting, complex whole body movements and walking on tip toes, repeating the same word or sound over and over again are all typical repetitive behaviors of AS.

Other Issues Your child may display symptoms that aren’t a part of an Aspergers Syndrome diagnosis, but still affect the child and your whole family. They may have perception difficulties, and problems with fine or gross motor skills, handling emotions, and difficulty sleeping. Many kids on the spectrum (Autism Spectrum) have trouble with SI, or Sensory Integration, and can be overly sensitive or under sensitive to sound light, touch, texture, taste, smell, pain, temperature and other things that stimulate the senses. It may feel soft and nice to you, but to them, it can be actually painful.

Children with Aspergers are more likely to have sleep problems, including difficulty in falling asleep, waking up often at night, and early morning awakenings. Aspergers is also associated with alexithymia, which means having problems identifying and describing ones emotions. My daughter certainly has emotions and feelings, but she has no idea how to describe them or even what they are, or why they are there. Very frustrating.

Special Education Children with AS may require special education services because of their social and behavioral difficulties, although many attend regular education classes. Teens and tween with Aspergers may have difficulty with self-care, organization and disturbances in social and romantic relationship. They are usually very smart, but the inability to properly express and the awkwardness of social contact keep many from leaving home as adults, although some gain independence in work and domicile, even marrying and raising a family. Teen and preteen years are hard enough on kids without social difficulties, but can be very traumatic for a kid dealing with Aspergers.

Coexisting Conditions Anxiety with AS is very common, and is usually centered on change or transition. That is why a consistent schedule is so important. Anxiety and stress during social situations is inevitable because of the constantly changing nature of humans and relationships and situations, there isn’t a single right thing to do in every situation. Stress and anxiety will show up usually as a behavior, such as withdrawal, an obsession, hyperactivity, or even aggressive or oppositional behavior.

Depression, and other mood disorders, can be the end result of the constant stress and frustration of failing to properly socialize and make friends. Medication and behavior therapy can be used to deal with co-existing problems such as anxiety, depression, inattention, obsessive compulsion, and aggression.

Getting the family involved by helping them to understand what is going on with their child or brother or sister, will have a big impact on the child’s future. It will also help with being able to deal with everything that is involved in dealing with a child with Aspergers Syndrome and bring some semblance of normalcy back to the family. Getting help early and involving the whole family as a built in support system has the best effect on long term outcomes for a child with Aspergers Syndrome.

Judson Greenman, advocate and father of four very special girls started these websites as a way of sharing the joys and challenges of Raising Special Kids – from one parent to another. See it all at http://www.raising-special-kids.com and http://www.anieleirose.org

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Have you always felt like you are different from everyone else around you? The odd one out, never able to fit in? Have you always wondered why you could never relate to your peers? Did you have trouble making conversation when it seemed everyone else was laughing and carrying about so easily?

Did you always want friends, but were never able to make them? Or maybe you never wanted friends and other people thought this was weird? Does being around lots of people make you nervous, do loud noises make you jump, do certain smells make you want to make a hasty retreat to the nearest exit?

Asperger symptoms in adults can stabilize over time and this provides them with opportunities to improve their social skills and behavior.

Asperger syndrome in adults has some common characteristics such as:

- Lack of managing appropriate social conduct

- High intelligence

- Anger management problems

- Controlling feelings such as depression, fear or anxiety

- Lack of empathy

- Inability to listen to others

- Inflexible thinking

- Repetitive routines provides feelings of security

- Stress when their routine suddenly changes

- Inability to think in abstract ways

- Specialised fields of interest

- Visual thinking

Depression and Anxiety in Adults Aspergers:

Aspergers in adults are prone for depression due to a much higher level of stress and anxiety.

Research has shown that the rate of anxiety symptoms in children or adults with Asperger Syndrome is much higher then average.

There are some common factors that could cause feelings of anxiety:

- Stress at work or in school

- Stress in a personal relationship such as marriage

- Financial stress

- Stress from an emotional trauma such as the death of a loved one

- Stress from a serious medical illness

- Side effects of medication